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Marriage Issues, divorce condition

Post by anshu » Thu Aug 04, 2011 4:28 am

Hello All,

I am running through very difficult time in my marriage life and its at the stage of divorce. My wife demanded to choose between my family and her else divorce. Selection is not possible
for me surely. Love is there between us but its less important for her now.

I need some astrological prediction if anyone can help me.

My Birth Details:-> Sep-12-1978, 20:56, Alirajpur (MP), India

Her birth details:-> Aug-31-1980, 16:11, Indore (MP), India

Marriage Date:-> Nov-24-2008

Please help me how you look future for our married life with the Dasha-Anterdasha effects and transiting planates. Thanks.

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Re: Marriage Issues, divorce condition

Post by anshu » Thu Aug 04, 2011 5:59 am

Dear Sir,

I also have some knowledge about it but not sure so please help me.

1.(Rashi Chart) I am an Aries ascendent, Jupiter in 4th house (Cancer),
Sun/Mercury/Saturn in 5th house(Leo), Rahu in 6th house (Virgo),
venus/Mars in 7th house (Libra), Moon in 9th house (Sagittarius), Ketu in 12th house (Pieces).

venus is good for me but Mars is not good and my 2nd house affected by Mars/Saturn & Rahu. 11th house is affected by Saturn which is not good for me.

Rahu Mahadasha is going on, Rahu-ketu will be there till 22-Jan-2012 then Rahu-Venus will start but not sure how will it be for me.

Whether Rahu-Venus could improve relations with the spouse this would also make some sense.

Also, Transiting planates:- Saturn is coming into Libra on 15th Nov 2011 which is my 11th house from rashi and 7th from ascendent.

Rahu is in my 12th house now from June, 6th 2011 and Ketu in Taurus till Dec 2012 then it will move to Libra and meet Saturn over there.

Jupiter is in Aries which will go to my 2nd house in May 2012.
All these transiting planates including my dasha-anterdasha will affect my life but I am not sure how.

My Navamsa,

cancer Ascendent, Mercury/Saturn/Ketu in 1st house.

Jupiter is in 6th house (Virgo), Mars in 4th house (Libra), sun in 5th house (Scorpio),
venus/Rahu in 7th house (Capricorn).

My Wifes details:->

Rashi-- Capricorn Ascendent, Ketu in 1st house,
Moon in 4th house (Aries), Venus in 6th house (Gemini),
Rahu in 7th house (Cancer), Sun/Mercury/Saturn in 8th house (Leo),
Saturn in 9th house (virgo), Mars in 10th house (Libra)

Her Navamsa--

capricorn Ascendent,
Saturn/Rahu in 2nd house (Aquarius),Venus in in 6th house (Gemini),
Sun/Ketu in 8th house (Leo), Mercury in 9th house (Virgo),
Jupiter in 10th house (Scorpio), Mars/Moon in 12th house (Sagittarius)

could anyone help me what effects all these things will affect my life. I have tried all the things prior to this and no success so learnt little bit astrology but I need experts suggestions, please...

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Re: Marriage Issues, divorce condition

Post by Shrikanth » Thu Aug 04, 2011 10:25 am

Dear anshu,

Your analysis of your charts is a good effort - but is faulty in some aspects. I wont correct every point.
But here's an analysis of these two charts.
FYI: I used longitudinal basis for house reckoning - so the houses as used here may be off from traditional sign counting.

Husband - Rasi
Aries Ascendant 11 Ar 21 : lagna lord Mars in the 6th in Libra (7th as per traditional) due to Mars being less than 11 Deg 21 mins longitude. Jup-Merc in 3rd, Sat-Sun in 5th, Rahu in 5th, Venus in 6th; Moon in 9th.

Arudha lagna has Ketu in it - indicates the native is highly religious and intuitive.

Upapada lagna is in Scorpio with Moon in the 2nd from UL; Jupiter in the 9th therefrom.
This placement of planets indicates some strength and longevity of the marriage.

Husband Navamsa
Merc-Sat-Ketu in Navamsa lagna does cause some high degree of affliction of Navamsa lagna and Venus in the 7th receives a major affliction by aspect from all these planets.
So in short Navamsa lagna and Venus are afflicted.

Moon as the lagna lord and Saturn as the 7th lord are placed in 6/8 Shashtashtaka from each other - This usually results in major discord between husband and wife.

The Husband is running Rahu-Venus from Feb 2011 and I'm assuming this is when the problems began or worsened.

Wife - Rasi
Here Lagna is 0 Cp 59; lagna lord Saturn is in the 9th house - indicates a highly independent minded person; will be religious and has strong opinions about her likes and dislikes.
This is exascerbated by Ketu in Ascendant - can make her very spiritual/religious - at times eccentric and irrational in thinking.

UL is placed in Taurus with Venus - who is a yogakaraka for Capricorn is placed in the 2nd from UL - good for material wealth and also ensure longevity of the marriage.

Wife Navamsa
Capricorn Asc; lagna lord in 2nd with Rahu; 7th lord in 12th with Mars.
The placement of 7th lord in Sagittarius (Fire sign) - aligns well with the husband being born with Aries Ascendant (another fire sign). The placement of 7th lord in 12th lord indicates some distance created between the couple.

Note the presence of Venus in the 6th house - quite inauspicious for Venus to be in; also afflicted by aspect of Rahu and Mars.

The wife is running Rahu/Merc until Oct 2012; Merc is exalted and well placed in the 9th but along with A8 and A6 - this put severe pressure on the A8, A6 matters which deals with separation, fights, disturbances etc., Note the fact that Merc is in 8th from Rahu as the dasa lord.

I dont see any improvement even in Rahu/Ketu ending in Nov 2013;

Rahu/Venus starting after Nov 2013 is when things will return to normalcy. This aligns well with the husband chart where his Rahu/Venus ends in Jan 2014. So late 2013 is when things will improve.
For now I see strained relations and separations, but in future there is reconciliation.

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Shrikanth

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Re: Marriage Issues, divorce condition

Post by anshu » Fri Aug 05, 2011 5:54 am

Shrikanth Ji,

Thanks for providing all the info. I just know basics of astrology.

So, It looks like things would improve in the future. But, its very difficult in the present.

I am in US right now, my wife is in India. She came here with me in Nov 2010 and went back in April 2011 for her sisters marriage.

She is not ready to find out any 3rd mutual way.. So, if she is with me then I have to break relations with my family, friends,relatives. Else, she want divorce. Also, from last 1 year she has cut down all the realtions with my family/friends. She didn't attanded my sister's marriage in Nov 2010 (But 6 days later she came to US with me) And I also don't have have any conenction with her family/friends since then.

Now a days We talk to each other but its not that great because mostly it starts gently with love but ended up with some more damage to relationship.

I want to be with her but if she can think of improve relations gradually which she denied completely.

Also, when we were in india we were not the part of joint family. Because of my job, living seperatly in Mumbai.

Problem begin when we lost our 7 month born baby because of Genetic Abnormality in June 2009 and after that she never become normal. That time also we were living in Mumbai.

She joined me in US from Jan 2010 - June 2010 & Nov 2010-Apr 2011 and we enjoyed also but always small 5% discussion become difficult.

If we could have another baby then things might be sattle but because in present circumstances I can't take risk and create more problem for the baby. We need more stability & maturity in our relationship.

Would you see seperation is just of distance for 1-2 yrs and things improve after that or If we can't pass this time with courage then it might be divorce also.

I am in the kind of situation which is very difficult for me and no support from my wife.

Thanks.

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Re: Marriage Issues, divorce condition

Post by Shrikanth » Fri Aug 05, 2011 8:03 am

Dear anshu,

Thanks for providing the background into your problems.
From a learning perspective - such specifics give the average student a wealth of info to correlate. Thanks

Yes - your assessment of your relationship is very much inline.
You do need to patiently wait for some time, maintain some line of communication and work towards stability and maturity in your relationship.
Having a child may help in bringing both of your closer - but could create a chaos in prevailing conditions.

Hope things work out for you.

Best wishes
Shrikanth

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Re: Marriage Issues, divorce condition

Post by Sujit » Fri Aug 05, 2011 9:31 pm

Dear Anshu,

You are running dasa of malefic Rahu and Ketu which are causing harm to your marriage.

In natal Rahu is weak by placement in the 6th dusthana house which gives disputes and current dasa lord Ketu would give you isolation and separation. Problems, conflicts, losses related to children, finances & litigation is shown in your chart. You should be careful with future dasa of Sun.

Next dasa lord Venus would give some relief middle of 2012 onwards.
Till then you have to manage time with patience and avoid provocation.

Best wishes
Sujit
1. Astrology never lied to me. If you have the right knowledge, EXACT predictions can be made. Astrology is an incredible tool for guidance and one should take note of energies of changing dasa lords.

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Re: Marriage Issues, divorce condition

Post by anshu » Tue Aug 09, 2011 7:15 am

Shrikanth Ji,

Thanks for providing me valuable information.

I understand that more challenging time would be coming for us and we have to show some real character to come out of it.

I have a question regarding dasha calculation you have told.. Its a bit different than traditional dasha Like, according to traditional calculation Rahu-Ketu dasha should be going on for me and Rahu-Venus should start from Jan-2012. But, I understood because you have calculated on longitudinal basis so its different. Please clarify.

Also, Please tell me if our relation improve in the future.. will my wife give importance to family values which is missing at this time.

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Re: Marriage Issues, divorce condition

Post by anshu » Tue Aug 09, 2011 7:59 am

Sujit Ji & All,

Thanks for the information.

Yes. Rahu dasha is very very difficult for me since start in all the areas of life.. Love, Study, career, Job, House, property, Finance, Loan, Family, Responsibilities, Child & finally marriage issues.

More to come as 6-7 years left to finish it. I will wait for that but apart from Rahu, Saturn is also not good for me.. being a malefic and looking to 7th, 11th & 2nd house. Mercury already malefic for aries ascendent and placed on 5th house which is not good.

I was hoping some good result from Rahu-Venus dasha because Venus is in own rashi and in Kendra creating Malavya yoga but now I think.. it might give some benefits in the finances but relationship will be a question mark because Venus is also malefic for Aries ascendent and specially joining Mars in the 7th house which is destroying Malavaya yoga. What you think?

Specially when saturn is coming into Libra in Nov 2011, so for both of us it will be a testing time.. For me Saturn in 7th house from ascendent & 11th from Rashi. For my wife, 7th from Rashi & 10th from Ascendent. I heard that saturn will test with fullest and mature. relationship might be finish at the end of saturn transit or become very mature and stong than ever.

Rahu will be testing till Dec 2012 transiting in my 12th house from rashi and 8th from ascendent.

I am wondering what would happen when Saturn & Rahu both will be in Libra from Dec 2012 and under Rahu-Venus dasha.. Could you or anyone please give me some information regarding that.

I want to share one more important thing for the better prediction that.. My wife is very very talented and You can't have that many qualities in one lady.. Like, She is a Doctor, great dancer, does very good drawing & paintings, create models, very beautiful, looks like a model, very good cook, very active, modern girl, Mehandi specialist, Grt interior decorator.. I mean to say she is really a dream girl for anyone and hard to find such qualities. We fall in love and then our families agreed.. marriage was there without any issues and was a grt marriage. She got everything apart from right attitude and family values which is very much important for the marriage stability. I didn't believe on Kundli matching before marriage which I should be and I knew that compatibility is not there but I didn't want to lose my love so I moved on.

So, I think I got all the benefits from venus and for me.. its very much up & down life.. 2-3 bad days and suddenlly 1-2 good days. again cycle continuous. I gets from planets good as well as bad effects according to placement on the chart. So, I believe it without any doubt now.

I am hoping for some good future for me as well as some good learning from all of you.

Thanks :) :)

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Re: Marriage Issues, divorce condition

Post by anshu » Wed Jun 27, 2012 5:34 am

Dear Shrikanth/Sujit,

I came back around after an year. We have discussed last year about my marital issues. I tried a lot to make things better but it could only go verse. One person can't make things better.. :(

In March/April 2012 My wife filed False Dowry case against me & my family. We got an anticipatory bail and safely came out of most difficult phase of the case. Case is still on though.

Then just before 10 days Her relatives approached us to make things in a mutual divorce, Before we give them our answers, 2 days back she filed a Divorce case.

I am really fed up after all these things. Even after making sacrifices, commitments and true love.. Everything went invain.

Now, Please suggest what do you think about my future time.. Will I be able to come out of all these troubles soon or will have to fight few more years.

Thanks & Regards,
Anshu

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Re: Marriage Issues, divorce condition

Post by anshu » Thu Jul 05, 2012 3:43 am

Dear Shrikanth Ji,

Could you please advise me.

Thanks & Regards,
Anshu

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Re: Marriage Issues, divorce condition

Post by anshu » Mon May 05, 2014 10:33 am

Dear Shrikanth Ji,

It has been almost 3 yrs when you helped me and given details. So many things happen after that but I fought with the time, waited and crossed most of the tough time. Seperation is still there and lots of cases which I am still fighting. I have come back to India from USA last year Jul-13 and waited for something good to happen.

Though God saved me from various problems but still no reconciliation with wife. I tried best to survive the relationship but still its under dilema.

As you said earlier, you predict through longitude/latitude basis and according to that Dasha period little bit different. But, through traditional way Rahu-Venus will end in Jan-15 and her period Rahu-Ketu will end later this year.

I still believe and follow your words as well as hoping that reconciliation could happen later in the year or early next year.

Could you please help me again and read the charts one more time.

It would be very helpful to me.

Thanks & Regards,
Anshu

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